Typical negative core beliefs

Most people have different unbalanced or negative beliefs. Although we may "believe" them (and yet be unaware of them) the good news is that today they are largely false beliefs.

The overall pattern
Almost all negative core beliefs are connected in a broad way with a feeling of lost self worth or of " not being good enough because ................." but it is the words that follow this phrase which are the most powerful.
They describe your core issue and those two or three words can set up a negative pattern that you will bond to and repeat throughout your life, until you can balance them with a positive pattern. There are hundreds of these beliefs as you can see from the long list on this page (and these are only examples).

Broad negative core beliefs or feelings about myself:

1. Not good enough (I am not safe)

2. Not good enough (I don’t belong)

3. Not good enough (I have no value, I am worthless)

4. Not good enough ( I am powerless)

5. Not good enough (I am wrong, I am unsure)

6. Not good enough (My life is out of balance)

7. Not good enough (I don’t exist; I am nothing)

8. Not good enough (I am not real)

9. Not good enough (I am unlovable; unwanted)

10. Not good enough (I am defective)

11. Not good enough (I am not whole I have lost my spirit)

Life Issue related to core beliefs

Security Safety

Belonging Nurture Self care

Self worth

Success Power Control

Reality Reason Knowing

Balance Moderation

Identity Recognition

Self awareness

Love, Loved and Loving

Health Self healing

Wholeness Spirit

Within these broad belief patterns, however, are hundreds of different, personal variations. It is when you start to identify your own that things become much clearer about many of the major issues in your life. (See examples below)

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NOTE: A core belief is always an internal "I" statement as in "I am unlovable"; "I can't "

A supporting belief is a similar prediction about what other people will or won’t do to you. It is not a core belief but is closely linked. A belief that "Nobody loves me" is a 'supporting belief', a prediction or forecast about what others will do or have done to you.

For example an untrue core belief like "I am unlovable" helps make other people react to you in negative ways. This helps to give the core belief the 'appearance' of being true. (A self fulfilling prophecy.) If it were not for the core belief we may have been able to accept love and be loved.

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Here are just some of the typical negative core beliefs I have helped clients to balance. At the foot of this page are notes about a few specially interesting ones.

1. Not good enough (I am not safe)

I’m unprotected

I am afraid

I am vulnerable

I am helpless

Supporting beliefs and predictions

Nobody will protect me

Linked Issues

Safety; Security; Peace; harmony; vulnerability; protection

2. Not good enough (I don’t belong)

I am unwelcome

I don’t fit in anywhere

I am lost

I am all alone

I can’t help myself

I am unwanted

I should not be here at all

Supporting beliefs and predictions

Nobody wants to know about me

Linked Issues

Belonging; Connection; self-nurturing

3. Not good enough (I have no value, I am worthless)

I am disposable

I am unworthy

I am not worth anything

I am not interesting enough

I am no good

I never come first

I always come second

I’m nothing

I’m not valuable

I am uninteresting

I am unimportant

I’m not anybody

Supporting beliefs and predictions

Nobody values me

Nobody cares about me

People who say nice things to me don’t mean them

Linked Issues
Self worth; Loyalty, Difficulty giving or receiving gifts, congratulations, love or appreciation;

4. Not good enough (I am powerless)

I am incompetent

I am not any good

I am unsuccessful

I am inferior

I can’t control anything

I am disposable

I am unworthy

I can’t achieve

I can’t change

There is no way out for me

I will fail

Supporting beliefs and predictions

Other people manipulate me and control my life

I am trapped and cannot escape

Linked issues

Achievement; Boundaries; Standards; Structure; Success; Goals, Results; Being organised, Self empowerment; ability to make changes; bonding patterns; self-protection; avoiding manipulation;

5. Not good enough (I am wrong, I am unsure)

I don’t know

I always get it wrong

I am always wrong

I am confused

I can’t understand

I’m not understood

I can’t be sure

I am in the wrong place

I am a mistake

I am unaware

I am uncertain

I can’t make myself clear

I am mistaken

I am not trustworthy

Supporting beliefs and predictions

It isn’t fair

I won’t get justice

I can’t trust people

People don’t trust me

Linked Issues

Truth; Right-wrong; Justice; Fairness; Openness and honesty; Trust and Trustworthiness; Integrity; Understanding

6. Not good enough (My life is out of balance)

I am unbalanced

I am out of control

I can’t be moderate

I always get it wrong

Nothing works for me

I stuff up everything I do

I am a klutz

I can’t fix it

Everything I do goes wrong

I attract trouble

I have ruined my whole life

I can’t get it right

I am in the wrong place

I can’t make it work (klutz)

I can’t fix it

I will never be able to fix it up

Supporting beliefs and predictions

Other people have to fix my life for me

Wherever I am I don’t like it. I need to move

Linked Issues

Success; Fixing problems; Solutions; Achievement;

7. Not good enough (I am defective)

It’s my fault

I am guilty

I am bad

I am not whole

I am imperfect

I am unattractive

I am flawed

I am stupid

I am awkward

I am slow

I can’t be me

I am hopeless

I’m not true

I’m dirty

I am ugly

I am fat

I’m shameful

I am unclean

I am useless

I am a reject

I am crazy

I am unbalanced

I will fail

I am a failure

I am a loser

I will lose

I don’t deserve to be loved

I don’t deserve to be cared for

I don’t deserve anything

There’s something wrong with me

Supporting beliefs and predictions

People can tell there is something wrong with me

Linked Issues
Integrity; Reason; Balancing giving and receiving; Emotional age; Growth; Avoiding “flips” between opposite positions

7. Not good enough (I don’t exist, I am nothing)
I am nothing

I am worthless

I am invisible

I don’t exist

I’m nothing

I’m not anybody

I am insignificant

I am not enough

I am not recognised

Supporting beliefs and predictions

People cannot see me

Linked Issues
Recognition; Being who I really am; My history; My knowledge; My experience; Self-awareness; My doings are not my beings (Who I am is not what I do)

8. Not good enough (I am not real)

I am a fake

I don’t know what is real

I am unsuitable

I am not true

I don’t know who I really am

Supporting beliefs and predictions

People will find out that I am a fake

Linked Issues

Freedom; Autonomy; Individuality; intimacy; self-protection; Balancing my personal and impersonal energies

9. Not good enough (I am unlovable; unwanted)

I am not lovable

I am unacceptable

I am always left out

I don’t matter

I am not special

I am not wanted

I don’t matter

I am alone

I am unwelcome

I don’t fit in anywhere

I am unsuitable

I am uninteresting

I am unimportant

I am plain and dull

Supporting beliefs and predictions

Nobody loves me

Nobody wants me

Linked Issues

Caring; Sharing; Unconditional loving; Balancing my giving and receiving;

10. Not good enough (I am defective)

I am no good

I am bad

I am crazy

I am broken

I am unfixable, unrepairable

I cannot be healed

I am doomed

I am going to die early in life

I am damaged (goods)

I am mentally defective

I am emotionally crippled

I am emotionally defective

I have a mental problem

Supporting beliefs and predictions

I am hurting, in pain

People can see that I am defective

Someone else will heal, fix or repair me

Unless you heal me I will never get better

Nobody can heal my pain

Linked Issues

Self healing, defects; perfection, pain

11. Not good enough (I have lost my spirit)

I am not whole

I have no integrity

I have no hope

I feel hopeless

I have lost my spirit

Nothing good ever happens to me

I am a bad person

I am sinful

I am evil

I can’t grow

Supporting beliefs and predictions

There is nothing to hope for

I must not get my hopes up

Linked Issues

Integrity; Balance Wholeness; Spirit; Self-actualisation; Spirit and spirituality; Personal Growth

Some intersting negative core beliefs:

I am a klutz (awkward)
This is one of my own negative core beliefs. I became aware of its the first time when I was taking part in an amazing week's intensive, training in voice dialogue with Dr Hal Stone and Dr Sidra Stone at Mendocino in California in 1974. I had heard the word "klutz" before but never realised its full significance until this time. I now recognize that I definitely have within me an "inner klutz". As I got to know the core belief better I rephrased it as "I can't fix anything."

I am a schmuk (unsophisticated) - not one of my beliefs but in my mind it seems to be associated with the previous belief.

I have nothing to offer - a client gave me permission to include this one because it was so interesting. Often when I dialogue with a negative core belief it has quite a lot to say (even if it's negative) . This one was incredibly quiet, reinforcing the belief itself. It had nothing to offer.

I can't get anything right. Everything I try to do goes wrong - the problem here was that every time we tried to do the negative core belief balancing process it "went wrong". It took a couple of sessions but the client succeeded in the end. Today it's amazing how many things are going right in that person's life, for the first time. Balancing in this case created a whole new outlook and a new start in life where previously things had consistently been going downhill.

If you would like me to add your own the individual negative core belief here I would be delighted. Just send me an e-mail with what you know or understand about it. bligh3@growingaware.com

But please remember:

1. If it's OK to publish details of your negative core belief on this site please include your permission for this in your e-mail. (Example: This confirms my permission for the following information to be published on the Growing Awareness Series website/s"

2. Even when you do this, it is better not to include your full name in any material that will be published on the Internet. But it's great to include just your first name or a code name. One thing that is important is your general location. Examples: "Molly from Sydney NSW"; "Happy Now - Ontario Canada" or "Davy C, Alamo TX"

For a full explanation of Negative Core beliefs see other pages: Your Core Beliefs Explained

How and why you react when a core belief is triggered

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What is a negative Core belief?

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Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on this list

Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns

Fable - The case of the stolen self-esteem

Where did they come from?

The self-fulfilling prophecy trap

Why you react when a core belief is triggered
More about core beliefs - Resonance

Why you cannot remove or change or alter or engineer a core belief

Five Gifts from Your Old negative core belief

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