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Your Core Belief Questions and Answers |
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Enjoying your books very much ,but I had a question or two if I may.
I am still working on book B and C and I believe I have discovered a
couple of core beliefs but as yet still think there are some deeper ones
I need to uncover
I had another question which you may be able to shed some light on
As you know I am an Australian living here in (Country name withheld) ,
the culture is definitely different here and people deal with emotions
etc in there own unique way here.
I often wonder what it is within me creates 2 very distinct reactions in
people when I am either Australia or (Country name withheld)
When here I am often treated with less respect than I would have liked,
often left out of things conversations etc
When I am home in Australia it is quite the opposite, or when people of
English origin are here with me in (Country name withheld)
I can absolutely say that it has been this way since day one and that's
even after I have become much better at the language
Is it always totally my belief system or can it simply be that the
country's consciousness is a given way and that's that?
Name withheld
John's Answer January 2009
I would think that part of the issue is definitely outside you. Rural
folks in (Country name withheld) are not known for being particularly
outgoing or extroverted. I am told that it something to do with are living
in a cold climate. The Swiss can be very much the same. I would assume
that Eskimos are even more so.
Compare this with the Italians, Greek or Spanish (and Aussies) who live in
a warmer climate. I'm told that Tasmanians are less friendly than
Queenslanders ?
However, keep in mind that in every country there are individuals who do
not fit the norm. The trouble could be that most of the outgoing
ones leave the colder north of (Country name withheld) and usually go to
(Capital city name withheld) or even abroad. Not much difference to
Australia in that regard. the bright young people in rural and northern
Queensland go to Brisbane and Sydney or overseas. The majority of the ones
whose stay behind are the quieter more conservative less adventurous ones.
Inevitably rural communities are noticeably less extroverted, more
reserved, less outgoing and more insular. I think you can reassure
yourself that part of the problem isn't to do with what's going on inside
you.
However on the other hand your negative core beliefs could certainly be
playing a part here. Depending on what you have identified already? One
of the Core beleif worksheets I think it's about number 14 or 15
asks you to imagine that you have a great big neon sign over your head or
an advertisement in the local paper or a business card which tells people
what you're like, and how to treat you.
Our negative core beliefs are the ones who put the words on those signs.
However you told me that in Australia you were popular
and communicated and interacted easily with everybody, and the same even
with Australians in (Country name withheld), so that may not be the case.
Here is just an example what might be happening..... what if you may had a
negative core belief about for instance being "different" that has been
amplified because you are now in a different country with different
language. Maybe in Australia that was seen as being rather an interesting
characteristic that attracted people to you because you were different?.
Over there it may worry people.
The bottom line here is that the answers often become clear when
your inner selves get a chance to talk about everything that is happening
in your inner village.
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