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You are probably already familiar with
two of the most common reaction patterns "Fighting" and "Fleeing".
But almost as common are many other 'F' reactions like "Staying but
Folding" or "Forget the Whole Thing" or Freezing.
Your F reaction patterns are the easiest
part of the whole process to look at, so they are the best place to
start work.
Ready?
Go to
Typical over-reactions - the 'F' patterns
3. Getting out of the old reaction
patterns
You can't change the belief that causes
the over-reaction but you can change the reaction patterns
themselves. Your triggered F reaction is the one part of the whole
process that you can observe clearly particularly if it's happening
over and over again.
At this point there are a couple of warnings
about how not to go about it. It's no good trying to "change" beliefs or or
get rid of them totally. I will explain as I go why that cannot
happen, and why there is a far better way that works. First let's
see if I can explain a bit about what core beliefs are, where they
come from, what they do. and why they do it.
Fable -
The case of the stolen self-esteem
Examples of negative core beliefs - is yours on
this list?
4. Getting to know
Your Core Beliefs
Where did they come from?
Why they came into your life?
Strange as it may seem as soon as you begin appreciating the way
they helped you as a child they begin to lose some of their
intensity.
The self-fulfilling prophecy trap
At this point you can start to understand what is underneath your individual
reaction patterns.
Why
you react when a core belief is triggered
More about core beliefs
- Resonance
Why you cannot remove or change or alter
or engineer a core belief
What you can do instead - practical
steps for balancing negative
and positive beliefs
The Trouble With Unbalanced Beliefs
(coming soon)
5. What can I do about all this?
Become aware of what is happening inside
you, and how much of this is being driven by your negative core beliefs.
Identify your own core beliefs
Understanding
different kinds of belief
Increase your self-awareness (and figure
out what's holding you back)
Make a list of the things that
Trigger You?
6.
Core Belief Balancing
Identify your own Core
Beliefs using do-it-yourself worksheets at home.
Save a fortune on therapist's fees and do a better job yourself.
Example:
Core Belief work sheet 4a
The worksheets will help you to
understand:
* Why you cannot remove or change or
alter or engineer a core belief
* What you can do instead - balance the
negative and positive beliefs
Five Gifts from
Your Old negative core belief Honouring the ways the old belief
helped in your childhood.
Core belief
Counselling in Queensland
7. More pages coming soon
Building better relationships (and develop real trust and intimacy) (coming soon)
Find out who you really are, what you want, and how to achieve it (coming soon)
Make positive changes in your life, that will really make a
difference (coming soon)
Be empowered to make the changes you want, at your own pace (coming soon)
8.
"Is
it really safe for me to change? Am I ready?"
Please read this page before
you go too far with making changes -
Making changes in your life using the methods described in these
pages is great , but only if you feel ready to change. And that
includes self assurance about change itself. It's better not to make
changes until you feel really confident about them and their effect
on your life. The methods we describe here do work, but the
changes can be fast and powerful. It's important to understand what
is going to happen before you begin. Then you can make your changes with
confidence.
Why are you here?
9. More special
free to copy pages
What you can do about all this
(coming soon)
A Step by step summary of what you can do (coming
soon)
10. Negative Core Beliefs and your Inner child -If you are troubled by
feelings of being blocked or clamped or repetitive self-defeating patterns in
your life you may be interested in our inner child website
www.love-your-inner-child.com
Core
belief and
Growing
Awareness Groups - Australia
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Near North
Coast (Nambour Yandina Noosa Maroochydore Buderim Maleny)
Queensland Inner Child and Growing Awareness Training
- e-mail
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and map
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Bald Hills, Aspley Chermside, Strathpine,
Sandgate Inner child and Growing Awareness Training
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and map
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nutting@growingaware.com or
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5. Perth, Cairns, Adelaide - click here for details
Core Belief
2009 Workshops
or Ph07 3261 2882
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The whole process of identifying your own negative core beliefs and then
balancing them is a very individual matter. There are no general rules, no
standard step by step approach. If there was I would print it here.
To achieve success also requires some time and thought on your part. I have
found it works best for people who are serious about this to do the work
step-by-step in their own time.
If you would you like to :
1. Discover your own hidden troublemakers and identify your own negative core
beliefs
2. Find out how to balance your negative beliefs with positive ones. It's easy
once you know why you need to balance them (and why you must not try to get rid
of them altogether)
3. Avoid getting triggered again as you have in the past
To order and for more information on the Free book and content of the workbooks (over 60
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about other Growing Awareness issues
Making Relationships Work an
updated series of pages and links from older Growing Awareness websites
Bottom line or Life issues
Boundaries are not “Rules” or “Walls” -
Rules for the School of Life
A fable about the Characters in your
inner Village and How Self-awareness Grows
If you would like to see brief summaries
of the above pages above
go to
Other pages of interest - summary
On this site I have also included many more pages
that relate to self-awareness work in a broader way. These are updated pages
from my older websites.
(copy for free)
Four Levels of Self-awareness and
Self-empowerment
Addiction cycles
The characters on your
"inner bus"
The following pages are perhaps of more interest to psychotherapists and
counsellors
More about our alternative approach
Alternate terms used in self-awareness work
Bibliography - self awareness and associated readings
Opposite
characters (notes
Complex
characters in
your Inner village and core beliefs
Feedback - please
e-mail me John Bligh Nutting - at nutting@growingaware.com
To contact John Nutting author of the 2008 Growing
Awareness series
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Acknowledgments -
I gratefully acknowledge the valuable help and understanding I received while
writing about Belief Systems, firstly from Nikki Nemerouf and Jeffrey Young and
also from John Falcon and Sergei Gorski for their guidance and valuable additions
to my understanding. I emphasise that
the following pages do not follow precisely the core belief, core schema or core
profile models as taught by any one of these outstanding teachers. However, many
of the ideas on this website are clearly based on their original work and the
training I did with them.
From that point I have introduced some alternate concepts,
in particular the connection between core belief work and the psychology of
the inner selves (voice dialogue) as taught by Dr. Hal and Dr. Sidra Stone. I
have found that dialoguing with the beliefs themselves as "characters" inside
us is one of the most useful skills (often the critical factor) in clarifying,
and balancing old core beliefs.
I thank Earl Cass and Anthony Nutting for their support and
expert suggestions and my thanks to my ex-wife and friend Rozz Nutting for
permitting me to include extracts from her own book on the core belief
process.
With appreciation - John Nutting
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